Choosing The Right Crystals For You

Choosing The Right Crystals For You

Choosing the right healing crystals can be a daunting task for some people, especially in the beginning. There are thousands of different crystals, gems and minerals in this world with new ones being discovered almost every day, so it’s no wonder people can get overwhelmed! 

In this article, I list some ways you may or may not have already heard about to help you in your decision-making process.  


An important factor in choosing the right crystals to work with is your intention. What issues do you need to work on? Are they physical? Emotional? Spiritual? Think about why this issue or intention is important to you and what about it you want crystals to help you with.

For example, say you want a stone for love. What specifically about love and what kind of love? Do you need to work on self-love (hint: we all do), compassion for others, or are you more interested in improving your relationships?

Knowing not only your intention but why this intention needs work can not only point you towards the right stone, but it can also point you towards complementary stones to help further your work on the issue. Say you decide you want to work on your relationships. What about your relationships needs work? Is it communication? Then you also may need a stone to help you communicate with your loved ones.


Even if you are not well-versed in astrology, knowing a few basics about your natal chart such as your sun sign and moon sign can really help when determining which crystals are right for you. There are countless articles and memes floating around on the internet about which stones are best for each sign.

Most likely you know your sun sign, but you can find your moon, rising, and other placements here.


Hello, my name is Delisa and I haven’t ALWAYS been an expert on crystals. Maybe you are just starting out or maybe you’ve been working with crystals for years. Your experience level is also important when it comes to choosing the right stones for your situation. 

Some crystals are very high vibrational or “buzzy”. Some can bring up hidden or unresolved issues and emotions to the surface so they can be healed. While this is great, when you are just starting out, it can be overwhelming.

There is nothing wrong with starting out with the basics to get a feel for crystal healing and what works for you before moving onto more advanced crystals. Just because all the Instagram accounts you follow are buzzing about a certain rare crystal that you MUST have doesn’t mean you need to go out and buy it right away.




Another thing you should factor in is how you want to use your new crystal. Do you want to wear it on you all day as jewelry? Sleep with it at night? Keep in your house to raise the vibe? Maybe you just want something small to keep in your pocket/bra/purse. 

This will help determine the size and shape of the stone you want to work with. For example, if you decide you want to keep a stone in your bra for protection while you’re at work, you probably don’t want anything too bulky, rough or pointy. Small tumbled stones or “worry stones” are best for that.

If you want to raise the vibe of a whole room or house, a larger more decorative piece might be your best bet.


One thing I don’t see mentioned a lot in the crystal healing community is the connection between personality and your crystals. While I’ll touch more on that in another article, I did want to mention that this can be one of the things that you should factor into your stones of choice.

For example, someone who is introverted could have very different needs than someone who is extraverted. Depending on the circumstances, introverts may need to focus more on protecting their energy more than extraverts since they gain most of their energy from within, unlike their extraverted counterparts.



And of course, the number one way to choose the right crystals for you is the simplest. Use your intuition. Even if you think you don’t have any. You do. Trust it. Can’t keep your eyes off of one particular stone online or in a shop? There’s a reason for that. You most likely need to work with it. 

Maybe you’ve been scrolling past or walking by a certain crystal for months and now all of a sudden it catches your attention. Most of the time our crystals choose us, so pay attention when these things happen.

If nothing is particularly jumping out at you, sit and meditate with your intention in mind and pay attention to anything that comes up, whether it is just a feeling, a color, a word, or an actual name or image of a crystal.

The most important thing is to not overthink it. You can’t really go wrong with any particular crystal. If you buy one and it turns out you’re not ready to work with it, you’ll usually find yourself setting it aside and not paying it much attention until you are ready.

Still feel like you need some help picking the right healing crystals for you? Join Crystals & Starlight, our Facebook community dedicated to being a safe and inclusive place to chat about crystals and all things spiritual!


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